Tannen thinks that boys and girls use language differently in order to reaching their goals. He observed that boys and girls act differently in playing a team sport. Boys regard it more like a performance art and tend to act in an authoritarian manner but girls tend to be more corporative. Tannen believes that how boys and girls behave in athelitic area reflects their different approach in terms of reaching their goal later in their life. Women like to use phrases like "i am sorry" and be more polite in terms of using their language. Mans like to command and be less likely to compromise. I think his opinion is right because earlier I have done research on gender difference in terms behavior and found that boys and girls behave differently in a early age even though they are identical twins. Boys seem to be more assertive to demand what they want, girls like to negotiate so that a mutual benefit will achieved. I think his purpose in writing this is to let people know that genetic make-up and gender difference can play a huge role in rituals of using language. By realizing the difference, people can have more controls over their language behavior.
The naturally different ways of using language based on gender is striking. Obviously the boys have a tendency to be forceful with their language in order to accomplish an ultimate goal while a girl would be more open with her language in case that a compromise needs to occur. Observing this difference with very little kids, like the example used in the article, demonstrates that there is a significant connection between language and gender because little kids have no control over their language nor do they have much contextual background to shape the way that they speak or the words that they use. So I start to think why. Why is there such a significant difference between the way boys and girls naturally use language? Has this evolved over time because of our history of males being the figure to evoke more dominance and the need for female to be more compliant with them? Or is this a natural linguistic response hardwired in our DNA from the beginning of time?
Tannen talks about the language difference between females and males by listing three different situations. First of all, in athletic activities, she mentioned that there are one or two stars in the team who are treated differently, while there are no leaders in the girls' team. Boys are more likely to focus on the performance art and the credit for what they did. However, girls are respectful for each other and say "I am sorry" even though they don't mean to apologize. Secondly, boys and girls behave differently when they are fighting for the things they want. Boys are more aggressive and act like there is only one survivor. For girls, they make compromises and always ask for agreements. Lastly, at work, men always have non-negotiable expression, but women usually balance their perspectives with other colleagues. I think the different characteristics of women and men caused the language difference. Men usually are more offensive, so their languages are more assertive and sound like order. But women don't like fighting with each other. Thus women prefer compromises and seem to be more negotiable.
Tannen starts by saying that girls will tend to be more accepting of mistakes, and they also tend to stay together as a team in certain situations. Boys, however, will display their dominance over others and appear to be less forgiving when a mistake is made. However, she then goes on to say that because the girls would apologise so often, maybe they didn't really mean it after all. I can agree with this split in how different genders will react to the same situations. I believe that men are quicker to point out a fault to another man, while a woman may choose to ignore the fault as not to offend the person she is talking to.
I really enjoyed this piece. Tannen was very insightful to analyzing how different genders acted and reacted to certain events. For example I was very interested in her experiment with younger children fighting over toys. It showed how the boys kept fighting and yelling to try and get what they want until one tried to permanently restrict the other. The girls on the other hand bartered and traded and reasoned with each other and eventually came to an agreement and only when the agreement became to unfair did a threat come out. It showed how even at a young age our genders differ greatly and both react differently. Also, that this sort of behavior carries on to later in life and can really affect certain situations that can affect the hiring of one person or another.
I found Deborah tannen's piece to be very insightful. I thought it was very interesting to see how both boys and girls reacted to the same events. One in particular that I liked was the one aiden just talked about with how each kid acted with toys. The boy would scream and cry and wouldn't stop until he got the desired toy. While on the other hand, the girls would try to get people to share their toys. Or try to reason with each other saying things like, "I'll trade you this toy for that toy." I found this one so interesting because for me, being the oldest of four in my family, I know what it is really like. And though what she said about the girls was exactly right in my family, me nor my little brother would scream or cry if we didnt get a toy we wanted. Of course be upset but we would never complain in the ways she described.
Tannen taled about how the language use different between females and males. Males have a tendency to be more direct on the language in order to achieve their goal. Such as in the school sports teams, boys want to lord it over others and when they make mistakes they hardly apologize for that but be annoyed for a long time; as for younger boys, they tend to pursue their own goal; males express a sense of non-negotiable during work. All in all, they are more concern with how they look like. On the other hand, girls like to “balance their own interests with those of the other girls through complex verbal negotiations“ and in sports they are more likely to say “I am sorry” even though they mean “I am sorry that happens”. At work, females ask more questions and show more negotiable. Instead of controlling over others, females want to have others’ agreements, and that is the way they can make sure that they are doing the right thing. The close connection between language and gender is demonstrated by three examples in different ages. Males and females are born to speak in these ways naturally. However, besides gender, personalities can influence speaking styles. Moreover, the language plays a big role in daily lives. The way females and males speak could influence their social statuses and prestiges.
Tannen did a great job of teaching the differences of emotion and reaction between boys and girls. Girls are a lot more respectful and caring in a competitive environment, while boys feel it necessary to assert dominance. I thought it humorous when Tannen described apologies between girls and boys. She mentions that girls may not often mean their sorry because they apologize so often, but boys mean it more of the time because they say it less often. I hate saying sorry in general, but when I do say it I mean it. Lastly, I liked the piece about agreements. Girls are more likely to make compromises while guys have more non-negation all actions.
I usually try to avoid stereotypes. Especially genderrelated, I try not to be prejudized. But wenn I red Deborah Tannen's essay, all I could think over and over again was, how right she was. I don't know where it comes from, but it is undeniable that the observations written down in the sandbox essay are the truth. I think that these characteristics might be the reason people think that men are more confident or have a stronger character. Especially when she talked about men making errors and not admitimg it. I think that men are a lot more worried about loosing their face when they are among themselves. That thing about the girls soccer team, when they say sorry but don't mean it, would not work in the boys team I think. The apology, which for the girls has just a sort of "oups" status, would be seen as a weakness in the boys team.
Tannen thinks that boys and girls use language differently in order to reaching their goals. He observed that boys and girls act differently in playing a team sport. Boys regard it more like a performance art and tend to act in an authoritarian manner but girls tend to be more corporative.
ReplyDeleteTannen believes that how boys and girls behave in athelitic area reflects their different approach in terms of reaching their goal later in their life. Women like to use phrases like "i am sorry" and be more polite in terms of using their language. Mans like to command and be less likely to compromise. I think his opinion is right because earlier I have done research on gender difference in terms behavior and found that boys and girls behave differently in a early age even though they are identical twins.
Boys seem to be more assertive to demand what they want, girls like to negotiate so that a mutual benefit will achieved.
I think his purpose in writing this is to let people know that genetic make-up and gender difference can play a huge role in rituals of using language. By realizing the difference, people can have more controls over their language behavior.
The naturally different ways of using language based on gender is striking. Obviously the boys have a tendency to be forceful with their language in order to accomplish an ultimate goal while a girl would be more open with her language in case that a compromise needs to occur. Observing this difference with very little kids, like the example used in the article, demonstrates that there is a significant connection between language and gender because little kids have no control over their language nor do they have much contextual background to shape the way that they speak or the words that they use. So I start to think why. Why is there such a significant difference between the way boys and girls naturally use language? Has this evolved over time because of our history of males being the figure to evoke more dominance and the need for female to be more compliant with them? Or is this a natural linguistic response hardwired in our DNA from the beginning of time?
ReplyDeleteTannen talks about the language difference between females and males by listing three different situations. First of all, in athletic activities, she mentioned that there are one or two stars in the team who are treated differently, while there are no leaders in the girls' team. Boys are more likely to focus on the performance art and the credit for what they did. However, girls are respectful for each other and say "I am sorry" even though they don't mean to apologize. Secondly, boys and girls behave differently when they are fighting for the things they want. Boys are more aggressive and act like there is only one survivor. For girls, they make compromises and always ask for agreements. Lastly, at work, men always have non-negotiable expression, but women usually balance their perspectives with other colleagues.
ReplyDeleteI think the different characteristics of women and men caused the language difference. Men usually are more offensive, so their languages are more assertive and sound like order. But women don't like fighting with each other. Thus women prefer compromises and seem to be more negotiable.
Tannen starts by saying that girls will tend to be more accepting of mistakes, and they also tend to stay together as a team in certain situations. Boys, however, will display their dominance over others and appear to be less forgiving when a mistake is made.
ReplyDeleteHowever, she then goes on to say that because the girls would apologise so often, maybe they didn't really mean it after all. I can agree with this split in how different genders will react to the same situations. I believe that men are quicker to point out a fault to another man, while a woman may choose to ignore the fault as not to offend the person she is talking to.
I really enjoyed this piece. Tannen was very insightful to analyzing how different genders acted and reacted to certain events. For example I was very interested in her experiment with younger children fighting over toys. It showed how the boys kept fighting and yelling to try and get what they want until one tried to permanently restrict the other. The girls on the other hand bartered and traded and reasoned with each other and eventually came to an agreement and only when the agreement became to unfair did a threat come out. It showed how even at a young age our genders differ greatly and both react differently. Also, that this sort of behavior carries on to later in life and can really affect certain situations that can affect the hiring of one person or another.
ReplyDeleteI found Deborah tannen's piece to be very insightful. I thought it was very interesting to see how both boys and girls reacted to the same events. One in particular that I liked was the one aiden just talked about with how each kid acted with toys. The boy would scream and cry and wouldn't stop until he got the desired toy. While on the other hand, the girls would try to get people to share their toys. Or try to reason with each other saying things like, "I'll trade you this toy for that toy." I found this one so interesting because for me, being the oldest of four in my family, I know what it is really like. And though what she said about the girls was exactly right in my family, me nor my little brother would scream or cry if we didnt get a toy we wanted. Of course be upset but we would never complain in the ways she described.
ReplyDeleteTannen taled about how the language use different between females and males. Males have a tendency to be more direct on the language in order to achieve their goal. Such as in the school sports teams, boys want to lord it over others and when they make mistakes they hardly apologize for that but be annoyed for a long time; as for younger boys, they tend to pursue their own goal; males express a sense of non-negotiable during work. All in all, they are more concern with how they look like. On the other hand, girls like to “balance their own interests with those of the other girls through complex verbal negotiations“ and in sports they are more likely to say “I am sorry” even though they mean “I am sorry that happens”. At work, females ask more questions and show more negotiable. Instead of controlling over others, females want to have others’ agreements, and that is the way they can make sure that they are doing the right thing.
ReplyDeleteThe close connection between language and gender is demonstrated by three examples in different ages. Males and females are born to speak in these ways naturally. However, besides gender, personalities can influence speaking styles. Moreover, the language plays a big role in daily lives. The way females and males speak could influence their social statuses and prestiges.
Tannen did a great job of teaching the differences of emotion and reaction between boys and girls. Girls are a lot more respectful and caring in a competitive environment, while boys feel it necessary to assert dominance. I thought it humorous when Tannen described apologies between girls and boys. She mentions that girls may not often mean their sorry because they apologize so often, but boys mean it more of the time because they say it less often. I hate saying sorry in general, but when I do say it I mean it. Lastly, I liked the piece about agreements. Girls are more likely to make compromises while guys have more non-negation all actions.
ReplyDeleteI usually try to avoid stereotypes. Especially genderrelated, I try not to be prejudized. But wenn I red Deborah Tannen's essay, all I could think over and over again was, how right she was. I don't know where it comes from, but it is undeniable that the observations written down in the sandbox essay are the truth. I think that these characteristics might be the reason people think that men are more confident or have a stronger character. Especially when she talked about men making errors and not admitimg it. I think that men are a lot more worried about loosing their face when they are among themselves. That thing about the girls soccer team, when they say sorry but don't mean it, would not work in the boys team I think. The apology, which for the girls has just a sort of "oups" status, would be seen as a weakness in the boys team.
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